Talking to her, nobody would guess than not so long ago things were not going quite as well for Vrinda. Her illnesses had caused her to isolate herself from the world, only comming out of her room when she absolutely had to.
Having suffered from clinical depression and drug addiction for many years myself, I knew more about isolationism than the average citizen. Because of this, I was happy to receive the opportunity to interview Vrinda about these issues.
I am happy to host Vrinda Pendred, Founding Director/Editor of Conditional Publications, a new independent publisher dedicated solely to publishing the works of authors with neurological conditions. Their first book 'Check Mates' comes out on May 11,2010.
Yesterday Vrinda stopped by Edee Conrad's blog and if you missed it you can go here - at http://edeeconrad.com
This is the thirteenth stop on Vrinda's 15-day Virtual Blog Tour to promote the launch of this ground-breaking new book.
What makes it groundbreaking is that 'Check Mates' is a collection of short fiction and poetry either about or inspired by the struggle with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, all written by people with OCD. It is arranged into two categories, Realism and Beyond. Whether solidly real, allegorical, or completely fictionalised, all the compelling work contained in this collection portrays the true story of this greatly misunderstood condition. It is also the first ever book of fiction written entirely by OCD authors.
I hope you will feel inspired by the interview you are about to read. If you do, be sure to sign up for the book launch reminder so you can buy 'Check Mates' and receive over 30 free personal development gifts on May 11,2010. To register, go to: http://conditionalpublications.com/pages/check-mates-launch.html (if you are reading this article after that date, you may buy the book directly from that page).
[Q] How did social media help you not fall into the trap of, or escape, isolationism?
[A] I would say that Social Media has not just changed my life, but actually GIVEN me a life. I moved from Arizona over to England when I was 16 and found it impossible to start over and make friends here. I am autistic, so approaching people was indescribably difficult for me, and I wound up becoming agoraphobic for a few years. At one point, I was completely nocturnal and didn't really leave the house for a year. But what happened was I spent all my time online, chatting to people. A lot of it was throwaway, but I did make some genuinely amazing friends through it, and that was back when all we had was message boards and chat rooms. Now, with the Social Media revolution, I have met so many people - many of whom are in the same time zone as me, and I've actually managed to meet them. When once I knew no one who could relate to the problems I was dealing with, I now have a massive group of friends, all with Tourette Syndrome, who arrange meet-ups so we don't feel so alone. I came home from one of these meet-ups recently, with a camera full of photographs, and said to my husband, 'I can't believe it. I just realised I have a huge group of friends again.' I know some people, some of whom wrote for 'Check Mates', who have not been able to leave the house in years. One of them told me recently she'd never touched a computer before, but now it's transformed everything for her. I have to say, I can't stand when people live nearby to you and have your phone number but won't talk to you in person because they're too busy on sites like Facebook. But for people with social anxieties or other disabilities, these things are a Godsend.
[Q] How have social media friendships helped you stay connected to society?
[A] It's hard enough finding people you relate to closely, without having a neurological condition. But add those conditions into the equation and you just feel so 'outside' everything, because you think and feel so differently from most people around you. Going online has widened my search for friends who really 'get me'. I'm able to go to specific sites, like ocdtribe.com, dedicated to people like myself - I'm now able to create this sort of site, to help others still more. In fact, 'Check Mates' was born on OCD Tribe. Today, you no longer have to get a doctor's referral to find emotional support; it's all over the Internet, waiting to help you come out of yourself.
[Q] How big a part does social media play in communicating with your friends today?
[A] When I moved overseas, the Internet was how I stayed in touch with the friends and extended family I left behind. In the years since, it has added to that group of friends in a way that actually shocks me! I am very privileged now to know some incredible people, and without the Internet I would never know they existed. I think another great thing about social media is that it goes beyond all the usual friendship barriers of age and culture differences. There are some people I feel quite close to who are twice my age, with a completely different background to me. But you don't know these things when you chat with someone online; you fall in love with the person inside, and learn all the superficial stuff later. It's beautiful and affirming, and it plays right into what Conditional Publications is all about: the truth that stereotypes and prejudices are pointless and need to die out once and for all.Be sure to follow Vrinda to her next Virtual Blog Tour stop on Sunday May 9th, hosted by Paula Tarrant at http://inspiredwomenwork.com/
AND... don't forget to sign up for the book launch reminder so you can buy 'Check Mates' and over 30 free personal development gifts on May 11,2010. Just go to http://conditionalpublications.com/pages/check-mates-launch.html